I was ignoring the obvious. Every single day, I would get up at 5 a.m., roll out of bed and after jumping in the shower, I would get dressed in dirty jeans and a t-shirt. Grabbing my lunch box, and pulling on my worn and dirty work boots, I’d head to my job at a roofing company. Every single day, I would climb up a ladder to scrape the old shingles off the roof. Despite being very afraid of heights, I managed to “suck it up” because I didn’t think there was anything better out there for a stuttering, high school drop-out. My co-worker “Joe” and I would talk about how we couldn’t wait to get to payday. I was living my very own “Ground Hog Day.”
I was unclear and confused about what my life and future could and should look like. I was willfully blind. And deep inside of me there was a deep inner awareness, that at the time, I couldn’t put words to or explain to anyone what I was thinking or how I was feeling. I just had this “something” inside of me that made me feel a sense of discomfort.
How many times have you chosen, sometimes consciously but mostly not, to remain unseeing in situations where you “could know, and should know, but don’t know” because it made you feel better not to know? That’s how I was in my roofing job. I wanted to avoid the truth. I wanted to stay in the dark because if I actually took my blinders off, I would have to be responsible for the conditions and circumstances in my life. Staying willfully blind allowed me to play it safe in the land of confusion. I know, it’s counterintuitive, isn’t it? And, to be honest, looking back on your own life, how many times have you said to yourself, “If I would’ve known then, what I know now, I would’ve never made that decision!”
Here’s the truth. You and I did know then. We just chose to conveniently filter certain situations to protect our fragile egos and most vital beliefs. Over the course of our lives, all of our experiences, relationships, beliefs, and ideas create the “wiring” in our brain. And the more and more we continue to have these same actions and behaviors, the more it gets physically wired and that energy begins to flow with less and less resistance, which in turn produces a sense of certainty and ease that gets stronger and stronger.
What is really scary is that this wiring process makes us see less and less which makes us more comfortable and more certain. We think we see more – even as our world shrinks. But, in reality, we are tiptoeing slowly and safely to our own death, the death of our dreams, the death of our hopes, the death of our potential, and the death of our calling and purpose.
Are you choosing to be willfully blind in one or more areas of your life? Have you had someone close to you tell you that “You can do better” and you didn’t see what they were seeing in you? You can take off the blinders and move from confusion to clarity – you were created to design a truly empowered life FREE from confusion.
Won’t you choose to move from confusion to clarity with me? I am going to share with you five simple, yet profound steps you can take to help you move out of confusion and into clarity. Just got to www.empoweredlifelessons.com to access this lesson on confusion.
Cheers to choosing clarity!
We were born to BE, DO and HAVE more.